There comes a point, quiet at first, when what once fit no longer does.

The meetings that used to energize you now drain you. The role you prayed for has become a room that is too small. You still care. You still deliver. But there is a hum under the surface. On good days you call it holy restlessness. On hard days it feels like failure.

You tell yourself it will pass. You double down on effort. You wait for a surge of clarity that never quite arrives.

Comfort is a gift. It can also become a cage.

If you are honest, you sense the Spirit saying it is time to loosen your grip. Not because what you are doing is wrong, but because it is no longer yours to hold. That is the terrifying part. Starting again means being a novice again. It means leaving a name you have built to follow a voice you cannot control.

John Wayne put it plainly: “Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway.”

You do not have to feel ready to obey.

You probably will not

God Calls People Before They Feel Ready

Scripture rarely shows God waiting for people to feel prepared. He calls them in the middle of their protests.

Moses meets God in a desert bush that burns and does not burn up. His first instinct is not worship. It is panic.

“Who am I that I should go?” he asks (Exodus 3:11).
“What if they do not believe me?” he presses (Exodus 4:1).
“I am slow of speech and tongue,” he argues (Exodus 4:10).
“Please send someone else,” he finally pleads (Exodus 4:13).

This is not rebellion. It is holy pushback. It is a human heart testing the ground beneath an impossible command.

God does not shame him. God answers him. Sign by sign. Promise by promise. Presence most of all.

Then there is Abraham. No map. No timetable. Just a sentence that still unsettles the settled. “Go from your country, your people and your father’s household to the land I will show you” (Genesis 12:1). The book of Hebrews remembers it like this. “By faith Abraham obeyed when he was called to go out, not knowing where he was going” (Hebrews 11:8).

He did not know. He went.

And Jonah. Jonah does what we often do with our callings. He runs. Not figuratively. He buys a ticket for the opposite direction (Jonah 1:3). Even after a storm, a fish, a second chance, and a city’s repentance, Jonah resents that God is more merciful than he is (Jonah 4:2). His story is a mirror. It shows us we can obey with our feet and still resist with our hearts.

God often gives a next step, not a map.

Holy Pushback: The Things We Say To God

If you feel a tug to leave and find yourself arguing with God, you are in good company. Scripture gives language to our protests.

“I am not enough.” Moses again. “Who am I that I should go?” (Exodus 3:11). God’s answer is not a pep talk. It is a promise. “I will be with you” (Exodus 3:12).

“I do not know enough.” Abraham is told to go to a land God will show. The knowledge will come, but not first. First comes movement.

“I do not speak well enough.” Moses fears his limitations. God names Himself as sufficiency and then gives him Aaron (Exodus 4:14–16). God often meets your lack with His presence and with people.

“I do not want to.” Jonah’s prayer in the belly names the truth he would rather not face. He knows God is gracious, so he runs from the assignment that would reveal it (Jonah 4:2). God persists. He appoints winds and waves and fish and plants. He cares for Nineveh, and He also cares for Jonah’s stubborn soul.

“I am afraid.” Jesus in Gethsemane prays, “If it is possible, let this cup pass from me. Yet not as I will, but as You will” (Matthew 26:39). Even the Son embraces obedience that costs.

God is not threatened by your hesitation. He keeps talking to people who keep talking back.

Why We Stay Too Long

We do not usually stay because we are faithless. We stay because we are human.

We stay because our identity has braided itself into our title. We stay because we know where the copier paper is and who can fix the soundboard. We stay because of the good we will miss and the faces we will leave. We stay because we have a mortgage. Because we feel responsible. Because it is easier to endure a known ache than risk an unknown one.

There is also the sunk cost ache. You have poured years into this. How can you walk away and not feel like you are wasting a life you already spent?

Israel felt this pull in the wilderness. In the strangeness between Egypt and promise, they remembered the stability of slavery as if it were sweetness. “We remember the fish we ate in Egypt at no cost,” they said, forgetting the cost was their lives (Numbers 11:5).

Staying past your assignment will shrink your soul.

This is not about quitting when things get hard. Ministry is hard. Work is hard. Staying is often the faithful choice. But there is a difference between faithful endurance and fearful clinging. Pay attention to which one is at work in you.

How God Meets Us When We Start Scared

So what does God offer when He says “go” to someone with shaking hands?

Presence.
To Moses, “I will be with you” (Exodus 3:12). To Joshua, “I will never leave you nor forsake you” (Joshua 1:5). To the disciples, “I am with you always” (Matthew 28:20). Presence is not a mood. It is a covenant. When you step into the unknown, you are not stepping alone.

Provision.
Abraham wanders and builds altars that mark God’s faithfulness on the road. Israel receives daily bread, not monthly plans. Manna appears with the sunrise and melts with the sun. Enough for today is how God trains the heart that wants guarantees.

People.
God gives Aaron to Moses. Jethro offers counsel that saves a leader from collapse (Exodus 18). Barnabas vouches for Paul when others are afraid of him (Acts 9:26–27). When you obey, God often answers your courage by sending companions.

Pace.
Cloud by day. Fire by night. Move when God moves. Wait when He waits. God’s guidance is often a tempo before it is a map. The unknown becomes survivable when you learn His pace.

Process.
Jonah’s story is filled with appointments. A storm. A fish. A plant. A worm. A wind. Even Jonah’s resistance is met by orchestrated mercy. The process is uncomfortable, but it is all grace. God is not only after Nineveh. He is after Jonah’s heart.

Obedience is the birthplace of clarity.

We want certainty first. God usually offers companionship.

The Subtle Cost of Delay

Delayed obedience does not feel dramatic. It looks like yet another month of “maybe,” another year of “when the kids are older,” one more budget cycle of “after we shore this up.” You are serving. You are needed. You are useful. That is the subtlety of it.

But there is a cost.

Your interior life grows smaller. Resentment leaks into rooms that used to be holy ground. You find yourself less generous with your team, less curious in meetings, less present at home. It is not always burnout. Sometimes it is the Spirit’s witness that your assignment has shifted.

Jonah’s delay did not only affect Jonah. Sailors suffered a storm they did not cause. Your calling is never just about you. The people you serve, and the people you will serve, are entangled in your yes.

Delayed obedience trains your heart to tolerate disobedience.

This is not a sentence of condemnation. It is an invitation to honesty. If you know it is time, say so to God. Say so to a trusted friend. Say so to yourself.

Practices For People Who Need to Leave and Are Scared

Not everything needs a framework. Most of us still need a way to move conviction into steps.

Name the ache.
Write what you can no longer ignore. Not the job description. The ache. “I feel misaligned.” “I am angry and I do not know why.” “I am afraid to be a beginner.”

Pray with open hands.
Use simple prayers you can repeat without pretense. “Speak, Lord, Your servant is listening.” “Not my will, but Yours.” “Lead me today.”

Read Scripture the way travelers read road signs.
Sit with Genesis 12, Exodus 3 and 4, Jonah 1 through 4, and 2 Corinthians 5:7. Watch how God moves toward people who hesitate. Notice how He keeps speaking to those who keep speaking back.

Tell the truth to two people.
Invite a seasoned pastor or elder friend and one peer who loves God and loves you. Ask them to listen long, ask hard questions, and pray for courage, not comfort.

Make the first decision smaller.
Big vague leaps breed paralysis. Choose one concrete step in the next 30 days. A conversation with your board chair. A silent retreat day. A resume you actually finish. A savings plan that turns risk into wisdom.

Create a simple yes filter.
Write your next season priorities in a sentence or two. Any new idea that does not serve those priorities is a “not now.” This is not legalism. It is mercy for your future self.

Small faithful steps outrun big postponed plans.

When You Do Not Feel Brave

A mentor once told me, “The opposite of faith is not doubt. It is control.” Control feels safer than calling. The road of discipleship is learning to be led.

You may never feel fearless. You are not asked to.

“We walk by faith, not by sight” (2 Corinthians 5:7). That is not a slogan. It is a survival guide. You will be tempted to wait until fear leaves. Often fear is the door you walk through to discover God’s love on the other side. “Perfect love drives out fear” (1 John 4:18). Not the healthy fear that keeps you wise. The paralyzing fear that keeps you stuck.

You do not need to be unafraid. You need to be led.

So pray. Listen. Decide. Tell the truth. Take the next faithful step. God can steer moving feet.

And when your courage falters, borrow John Wayne’s line for a day at a time. Be scared to death and saddle up anyway.

A Blessing For Beginners

May you have the honesty to name what is ending,
the humility to start again without applause,
the patience to walk at God’s pace,
and the joy to discover that readiness is often found on the road.

May your obedience open doors you cannot yet imagine,
and may the Presence that called you be the Presence that keeps you.

Amen.

Starting scared is still starting.

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With 25+ years in faith-based executive leadership, Matt Davis knows the wins, the losses, and everything in between. As Executive Pastor, he led a team of 140+, tackling the challenges that come with big vision and real impact. As President of Ministry Transitions, he guides churches through tough leadership changes. Matt and his wife, Marilee, host the Life After Ministry Podcast, where they dive into real talk with former pastors who’ve found their kingdom assignment beyond church walls - unfiltered stories of grit, growth, and God’s purpose beyond the pulpit.

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